Spoiled But NOT a Brat

Published March 12, 2010 by Mrs. Universe Philippines 2020 - Star Villanueva
 I’m alone. Free. Independent. Self-supporting. It’s tough. But, I’m fine… Yes, very tired every single day especially when it’s full flight where I don’t get much time to at least sit during the coarse of the flight but I’m fine. And I love it. I like it when I’m tired. And yes that makes me weird.
I can go wherever I want because of the bidding system where you can bid any of Qatar Airways’ more than 80+ destinations. Yes, I truly have the choice to go elsewhere across Europe, South Africa, Asia & United States that has definitely higher meal allowance & more flying pay than Manila but my choice will still be Manila. And yes that makes me weird.
Most people always have the shocking reaction every time they found out that I have 3-4 Manila Flight every month and still want more. It’s just that, I am truly missing home and flying to Philippines gives me the comfort of being home. And yes that makes me weird. 
 Things are so different now. I have to do everything on my own, unlike living with my family – When I wake up, someone makes up the bed for me, my breakfast is ready, driver starts the engine, my brother parks the car for me, My clothes are all instantly clean and iron. Go home.  My piano teacher comes twice a week, Attending Sunday Mass, Play with my lil’ sis and my puppy, When I get hungry in the middle of the night, food is given to me.

Sarap ng buhay ko dba? Pero hindi dapat ganun. Some might even think that it’s stupid of me to have left my home where I was a “princess”… but, NO. That’s not how life should be.

My mom wasn’t from rich family, neither grew up wealthy but she worked damn hard to give us the life that we have now, and I know it was not easy at all. It was rags to riches story just like in teleseryes!

I want to work hard. I do work hard. I love to work. And right now, this job is one of my greatest challenges in life. This is where, I give the greatest task of my life. And I don’t just mean at work…. I’m pertaining to my life here, alone. My life without yayas, without Mom, without my siblings, without my best friends, and almost everyone I know who’d always spoil me.

I’m used to living within my means now and doing the laundry and the grocery, cooking for myself, washing the dishes, making up my bed, cleaning my toilet and cleaning my room I even associate cleaning as my exercise… I need to keep reminding myself that I’m never alone… never… because God is with me… God is everywhere… His opinion of me matters to me the most… not the world’s opinion of me..

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13 comments on “Spoiled But NOT a Brat

  • Star, I admire your humility. When I was single ganyan din ako, we were raised w/ a blissful fam life but not to the point of not having responsibilities. yun pala it’s just a way of prepping me up for the life that i have now w/ my own family. congrats, you’re on the right track!

  • wow! impressive! =) true to the title. you WERE spoiled but not a brat. i have to commend your life decisions and choices. God bless you more! 🙂

  • oo naman Star.. I’ll be delighted na ma-makeup-an ka.. Pag may mga shoots kami and you are here sa Pinas, join ka.. Yun nga lang I cant afford to pay a TF.. 🙂 Sayang di kita nakita sa Qatar when I was there.. I have always admired your humility and beauty.!God bless!

  • very true. I did some household chores when I used to live with parents but only minimal. I can relate with you when you say you’re reponsible for doing every single thing now no matter how small or large, immediate or not the task may be. Now that I’m married, the things I see that the things my parents used to do to maintain our household are the things I’m doing now with my new family. It’s a good thing I had some prior experience in some of the chores (I still need to brush up on cooking abilities), so it’s not a matter of figuring out how to do it… it’s just a matter of doing it or not (and there’s no fallback now for the “not”, in short, no one else to do it but you).

    Keep it up and don’t forget to rest a bit even though you find happiness is being tired. hehehehe!

  • Hi Star,
    thanks for stopping by at my blog. I appreciate you.
    When I was young, I dreamed of the things that you have when you
    are young. The comfort and luxury. That is life I know. I grew up in tough times.
    Like what you said, working hard for the sake of the family makes a difference.
    To me, the happiness I feel whenever I am with my loved ones (family) is priceless.
    But we have to leave for a while to pursue our own struggle and goal to be the person that we are now.

    Ahh, I miss home too.


  • Hi Star, I can totally relate, when I was your age I just got married that time and really had difficulty adjusting to married life. I was pampered too much and was very dependent of my mom. Ganito pala ang buhay may asawa, you’re really on your own and it’s not easy. I don’t have any helper right now so I do my laundry, I clean the house, I take care of my child, I blog, I manage my online business, I serve 2-3 Odesk buyers. Gosh it’s one hell of a crazy schedule but I enjoy every single moment!! 🙂

  • I really admire everything about you Star, you’re so beautiful inside out, continue to inspire us with your blog ha.. God Bless you more

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